I see it all the time, adult children store their stuff at their parent’s home. More times then not, the situation doesn’t work well for the parent. They need the space. But, their children don’t have enough space either. So, what to do. The obvious answer is to get rid of the stuff but this is not necessarily the right answer.
As a parent myself, I suggest you look at this as an opportunity. Spend time together and reminisce (although you may have to cut it short eventually). You might help each other learn how to be more organized. If volume is a problem, find ways to teach each other how to let go. Circumstances may drive decision making:
Age plays a role in the situation. Young adults tend to lack desire to organize
The location of the child’s home plays a role. It might be impractical to move their stuff because of distance. In that case, find family members or friends that might connect with their stuff. The parent and child are going to have to cooperate in this situation. Ultimately, it is the parent’s home and off-site storage units are available.
Each person’s tolerance level for getting rid of stuff plays a role. If the adult child is a pack rat, or worse, a hoarder then there are much deeper issues to deal with, not just the stuff. This is a cute video (please don’t be offended)
- Your tolerance level for each other plays a role too.
- What else inhibits the situation from being resolved? You might have to talk to each other to figure it out, ugh…
The goal is to be patient with one another and work on an agreeable solution. If you can get along then it’s possible to figure it out. Ask someone to help if needed.
ON THE OTHER HAND!!!…while you are going through this process, do not take advantage of this time by giving (or dumping) your unwanted belongings on them. Of course, they need to take their stuff but they do not need to take your stuff too. This is something else I see all the time, parents have emotions wrapped around their stuff and they think giving it to their child is easier then giving it to a stranger. I disagree, it is not easier for the adult child (unless they want the stuff)! Prime example, my Mother is a pack rat, we all know it, including her. She once told me, “when I die, the stuff is your problem”. Hmm…guess that tells you something about our relationship…stuff is important to her. Think twice, kindly ask before you assume.