There are times when an Organizer is not the right person to help

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by Tracie Utter

A while back, I got a call from a prospective client.  This was not a typical call.  The woman was in tears.  She shared with me that her husband was going to leave her unless she got the house cleaned up.  He was due back from a business trip in a week.  I asked a lot of questions, trying to determine how our organizing firm could best help her.  It turned out we weren’ t the right group to help her.  I was fairly certain that she was a pack rat…maybe a hoarder or on her way to hoarding. 

When I was talking to this individual, I could feel her pain. Her world was crashing down around her.  She was reaching out, trying to help herself.  I have to give her a lot of credit.  Taking the first step is difficult.  Moving from thought to action can be overwhelming.   Often, I find there is a thin line between organizing and counseling.  As a professional, I know when to tell clients that I am not qualified to assist them.  You see, exsessive clutter is a sympton of something going on inside your mind.  Clutter gets all wrapped up with emotions.  Aquiring stuff is a temparary “feel good” fix.  The good endorphins are released and happiness sets in.  For a while anyway, until reality comes back and you’re left  looking for the next “feel good” moment.  It can be an addiction.  This very sad individual needed a couselor.  She might also need an organizer but I don’t have the skills to help her sustain her marriage.  It’s up to her husband, herself and a counselor to resolve that.  My services are a tool to assist with the process. 

Utterly Organized, a team of experienced organizers serving Louisville, KY and surrounding areas.

Can adults with ADD get organized?

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by Tracie Utter CPO CPA

I believe they can. First, you need to have a doctor diagnose your ADD and prescribe appropriate medication. Without it, your ability to focus may be limited and it’s understood that organizing requires focus. It can be tedious.

In working with clients, I find that there are various degrees of ADD. Some clients have extreme cases (maybe because they don’t know they have it or not but haven’t seen a professional) and find organizing almost impossible.  Others are not struggling as much so they manage, but not to their expectations (usually, they come right out and tell me “I have ADD but am on medication”).  One thing they all have in common…they struggle with maintenance. Often, getting organized is tolerable, especially when you have a helper like me.  But keeping up with it, including paper and time management, tends to be a problem. My suggestion to them is to continue to  work with someone.  A professional is preferred but a family member might be just as good.  A relationship like this should help to relieve some of the stress. A good helper should be able to make appropriate suggestions and act more as a coach than an organizer.

I’m reading several books on the topic: ADD-Friendly Ways to Organize Your Life by Kolberg & Nadeau, Organizing Solutions by Pinsky, Attention Deficit Disorder by Brown and The Disorganized Mind by Ratey.  From reading these books and learning first hand from clients, simplicity seems to be a common theme. Make routines simple and efficient and get rid of the clutter. For the most part, I deal with client’s paperwork and apply this theory constantly. For example, I know placing files in filing cabinets is not an option. Instead, piles are used, however, there are rules associated with the piles. Also, open containers are used as visual reminders. Colors are used to signify importance. Habits are reviewed, changed and reinforced…and discussed…and reinforced…and discussed…and so on. Designated areas are identified. Visual clutter is managed. The goal is to put both our brains together so we can come up with solutions that actually work.

Several problems these authors address are decision making, procrastination, time, being impulsive, age, memory, focus, fears and there’s more. Education is key. Understanding how the ADD mind works so that you can work with your cycles instead of against them is important. If you can’t remember where things go, then use labels or delegate. If you get so involved in something that you lose track of time, have someone call you to remind you to stop or set an alarm.  Many of the solutions they suggest are simple but effective.

My experiences…

I’ve worked with several ADD clients for many years. They tend to go through a lot of emotional ups and downs. When family and money issues escalate, so does their ADD. Sitting in a chair trying to get little chores done like changing an address, investigating an expense or paying a bill requires my presence. In no way are these people lazy, uneducated or troubled. In fact, it’s just the opposite, they’re very competent people. We’ve been working together long enough to know who is better at what: I do the tedious work and they act on important issues.

Another individual I worked with a couple of times had a completely empty closet with all their clothes (lots) out in the room. Together we decided which clothes were acceptable and put them in the closet by color.  The client was excited because the system was visually appealing. Unfortunately, maintenance continues to be a problem and requires a helper.  However, they know this about themselves and have figured out how to compensate to get things done.

Do you have a success story?  Please tell me so we can help others.

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